A Guide to Your Pre-Wedding Parties


Your first time planning a wedding, or even being in one, comes with the realization of how many events you're supposed to host and attend before the big day. It can get confusing trying to figure out which parties you host, which parties people host for you, and who to invite to what party. Have no fear!! That's why we've created this guide for you detailing all of the pre-wedding events. We hope it helps brides we serve at our Baton Rouge, La bridal boutique and our new bridal boutique location in Covington, La serving brides in Mandeville, New Orleans and the Gulf Coast. 

Engagement Party

This one is pretty self-explanatory. An engagement party is just a party to celebrate that you're getting married so that everyone can obsess over you, your fiancé, and of course, the ring. This party is usually hosted by the bride's family or her soon-to-be-spouse's family and tends to happen within a couple of months after the engagement. The engagement party can be big or small, but keep in mind that for all of these parties you're going to want to mix up your guest list.

Bridal Shower

This party is all about the bride and is most often hosted by the maid of honor and the bridesmaids. The bridal shower is an all-girls affair to eat some brunch, lunch, or whatever you're feeling and play a few wedding themed games. The bride also opens the gifts given to her by all the ladies in attendance in front of everyone (this is why you should register so you can get fun things you want/need). A bridal shower is usually scheduled during the day about three or so months before the wedding at the home of one of the hosts.

Couples Shower

A couples shower is the same idea as a bridal shower, except men and women from both sides of the wedding party attend. You can choose to have a bridal shower, a couples shower, or even both if you'd like! This is all about you, have whatever parties you want.

Bachelorette Party

The bachelorette party is a night (or weekend) dedicated to celebrating the last moments of freedom..just kidding!! What I mean is that a bachelorette party for the bride and bachelor party for the groom is just a chance to go crazy OR relax with their closest friends before the chaos of the wedding and married life sinks in. A bachelorette party has been stereotyped as a wild, raging night of bar hopping and clubbing, but there are no guidelines you have to follow when choosing a destination. Go to Napa for some wine, have a relaxing spa weekend, get some sun on the beach, or head over to Vegas! It's totally up to you. Bachelorette parties/trips are planned and hosted by the maid of honor and bridesmaids about a month or so before the big day.

Bridesmaid Luncheon

Hosted by the bride, the bridesmaid luncheon is a way for the bride to thank her bridal party for being by her side through all the hectic wedding planing. This is one of the more intimate gatherings and usually takes place the day before the wedding once everyone has gotten in town. The bride and her bridesmaids typically enjoy brunch or lunch at a restaurant or other spot in town, but this party can be held wherever you'd like.

Rehearsal Dinner

This is when everything starts to feel real. The rehearsal dinner is a smaller gathering, usually just the families and the wedding party, held the night before the ceremony. This is where, you guessed it, you rehearse the wedding. Who's escorting who, what order you walk down the aisle in, and all of those fun details are ironed out at this party. After all of that's out of the way, the guests sit down, eat some dinner, and share toasts to the bride and groom. This event is usually hosted by the groom's family.

So many parties on top of so much wedding planning. These are just a few helpful tips, but there is no book of rules on how to have your pre-wedding parties. Do it however you'd like! We know it's stressful, but don't forget that it's also fun.

XO, The I Do Team